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Discernment Counselling for Couples on the Brink

Couples on the Brink

If you or your spouse are considering divorce but are not completely sure that is the best path, you are in a tough spot. Discernment Counselling is a chance to slowdown, take a breath, and look at your options for your marriage.

Discernment Counselling is a new way of helping couples where one person is “leaning out” of the relationship—and not sure that regular marriage counseling would help — and the other is “leaning in” — that is, interested in rebuilding the marriage.

Matleena Vanhanen will help you decide whether to try to restore your marriage to health, move toward divorce, or take a time out and decide later.


The goal is for you to gain clarity and confidence about a direction, based on a deeper understanding of your relationship and its possibilities for the future.

The goal is not to solve your marital problems but to see if they are solvable. You will each be treated with compassion and respect no matter how you are feeling about your marriage at the moment. No bad guys and good guys.

You will come in as a couple but the most important work occurs in the one-to-one conversations with Matleena. Why? Because you are starting out in different places.


Matleena respects your reasons for divorce while trying to open up the possibility of restoring the marriage to health.


The importance of each of you seeing your own contributions to the problems and the possible solutions is emphasised during the sessions. This will be useful in future relationships even if this one ends.


Number of sessions: A maximum of five sessions. The first session is up to 120 minutes and the subsequent sessions are 80 minutes.

Cost: The first session is 1500 AED and the subsequent sessions cost 1025 AED.

Discernment Counseling is not suited for these situations:
• When one spouse has already made a final decision to divorce
• When one spouse is coercing the other to participate
• When there is danger of domestic violence